I originally planned to wait and share this when I was riding high on cloud nine once again, very far removed from my doldrums with plenty of superb wisdom in hand. However, by the time I'm out of a funk I have usually forgotten just how bad it stinks and likely will have moved on to sunny & motivating topics once again. So instead, I'm coming at you just a day or 2 out of a major funk- one that has been with me off and on for weeks and might not be completely gone! The only word to describe it is just "blerg", a term often used by my favorite TV character (Liz Lemon), written so beautifully here by my friend The Town Serif.
Here Are Some Funk-Inducers:
My decline in physical activity has been slow and steady since opening our shop last April. I got to a point where I was excited about being tied to my computer all the time, and slowly but surely working out fell by the wayside. I am only successful with exercise when I am doing something truly enjoyable or being held externally accountable. I'm currently on my second of 6 weeks working with a trainer to get myself back in the habit. On my off days I try to get 10k steps a day. A trainer isn't something I necessarily have extra room in my budget for, but I know it's an invaluable gift I can give myself to help me get back on track and reinstate good habits. I'm training with Victoria from Glow Body Health & Wellness, & loving working out with her in the park!
Some people thrive when they are held accountable by goals, but I tend to get easily overwhelmed by all of the things I could be/should be doing. For right now, I'm just concentrating on tracking my business "wins". If I work with a client I'm excited about, had a good sales month, etc., it gets added to the list. It's nice to have a list you actually want to look at for a change!
Eating White Foods
The three biggies that always get me are flour, sugar, and dairy! Our bodies don't actually need these things and for some people, they can really cloud up our brain! No, I don't have any fancy studies to back this one up, but if you start doing your own research you will be amazed. A lot of times when I find myself bloated, fatigued, or anxious for no good reason at all, it's usually because I haven't been keeping these things out of my diet. I also eat WAY too many white potatoes (in all forms) and am trying to sub sweet potatoes- white ones can be inflammatory and have a chemical called lectin that is apparently no bueno. I have noticed most of my funks happen around my period, and to me that still points back to the foods in question here. None of them are known for being great for hormonal imbalances!
Playing The Comparison Game
For me, the girl I compare myself to the most? MYSELF. circa about 2009- working as a speech-language therapist in DC, making about 80k a year. Plenty of money to have fun with and plenty to save. The path to that career took 6 years of school, so why am sitting here thinking I'll get the same paycheck after just 2 years of hard work at Charleston Weekender?! Rome wasn't built in a day, duh! It seems more common to compare yourself to what you see on social media. I'm usually good about not doing that, but occasionally I'll see another blogger working with a brand that's turned me down and I get a little FOMO! That's when it's time to head back to that "wins" list and refocus energy on what I DO have going on. That energy could be spent in such better ways and we are better than that, friends!
Ok, Let's Fix Our Funk!
In addition to some of the suggestions I offered above, here are some strategies that have usually helped me.
Seek Outside Help
Sometimes I can work my way out of my own depression (which for me doesn't actually feel like sadness, just lack of motivation and lethargy/apathy). Other times we need real professional help. For right now that means hiring a trainer, and at times that has also meant I've worked with a talk therapist. Occasionally, outside help is as simple as reaching out to a friend. Simply scheduling a phone date with a gal pal is all it takes for me to get moving a lot of times.
Pat Yourself On The Back!
I bet you don't say mean things to your friends like "you really should be making more money" or "you really could be a better parent", right? Ok, then why are we letting ourselves say such mean things sometimes!? If you heard the things I said to myself lately- about my job, about being a wife, or even about being depressed, you would think it was terrible! I noticed when I was reading daily affirmations and writing down what I was grateful for as part of my 30 days of habit making that it was easier to stay positive with my thoughts. Practice thinking, writing, or talking about the good things you have going on!
Take a Chill Pill, Literally!
When all else fails, I turn to medication. This is NOT my first choice if I'm being honest. In general I am working toward having an all-natural approach to what I put on and in my body. However, sometimes my anxiety zaps my energy and turns into depression if I don't nip it in the bud. That means after a few too many nights of waking up at 4am I just might need a Xanax the next night. I have also tried Prozac in the past but didn't like the side effects. What works for me might not work for you, but sometimes it can make a world of difference. Good news is I think I have found an all-natural substitute for Xanax that I've been trying- the essential oil vetiver! I've been rubbing it on my big toe at night and my husband and I both experience much less restless sleep that lasts all night (until Maddie snores, ugh).
Like I said in my latest IG post, you can actually have ZERO things to complain about and plenty to be grateful for and STILL find yourself in a funk. I hope this helps us get us out of it once again, my friends! I'd love for you to share what helps you- leave a comment here or on over on Instagram.