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Weekender Wardrobe: Round Bag Round-Up

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I'm certainly no style guru, but I do find it fun to stay on top of trends when I can!  I keep seeing round bags all over Instagram, and I love them more and more each time I spot one.  Here is a little round-up of some of my favorites, with the lowest prices at the top & the covet-worthy splurges at the bottom.  

Some of these links help earn me a small commission, even if you just click on them and don't buy anything, so I really appreciate you helping support my blog.  Regardless, these are all just bags that I discovered and love!

Apprvl Round Rope Tote, here // Rattan Cross-Body, here 

Rose Gold Karen Walker Cross-Body, here // Beau & Ro Clutch/Cross-body, here

Kate Spade Caviar Cross-Body, here // Mansur Gavriel, here

 

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Houzz Round-Up

Thanks to an awesome local photographer, Margaret Wright, I have started doing some home styling projects with Houzz!  I wanted to share what we have worked on together the last few months:

My Home Tour

Sunwoven's Entryway Styling

Getting Campy With Your Bar Cart

Cozy Cabin-Inspired Tabletop

Simple Steps to Get Your Home Ready for Guests

Next I'm going to be working on a Houzz project or two in Palm Springs with Marni from Struktr Studios!  If you love home decor, make sure you're following along on Instagram so you don't miss some sneak peeks! 

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The Instagrammer's Guide to San Francisco: 10 Photo Worthy Stops

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San Francisco was definitely one of my favorite places to visit in the last few months!  There are so many great cafes, restaurants, and shops that I checked out when I was there celebrating my mom's 70th birthday.  I never got around to sharing some of our favorites. I hope you enjoy these spots as much as we did!

-Good Eats-

1. Le Marais Bakery

You'll love this adorable gem; an authentic Parisian menu and bright and sunny surroundings? Yes, please!

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You might want to go for the cute decor alone, and you'll definitely want to stay for the chocolate mousse that's served from a gold pineapple! 

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3. Mr. Holmes Bakeshop

A place that's so nice, we at there TWICE!  One cronut was just not enough. They have different flavors every day and we just loved everything we tried! 

4. Jane Cafe

This was a great spot if you want to eat somewhere with plenty of whole foods on the menu for breakfast or lunch. We ate at the Fillmore location, which had other cute nearby shops (like Saje who has awesome essential oils), and you can go to the Larkin St. location if you want to see their cool wall. 

-Fun Sights-

5. Lombard Street (World's Crookedest Street)

I recommend you try to walk AND drive on this street; both are a fun and different experience. If you drive (or ask your Uber driver to take you) down this street, you really understand where it got it's name.  You don't take the same winding route if you walk, but you get to enjoy taking in the awesome houses along the way.  This blue one is my favorite!

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6.  Fisherman's Wharf

This is the area where you can check out The Buena Vista for their famous Irish coffees, find the best trolleys, and get catch great views of the Golden Gate Bridge.  You're close to Ghirardelli Square, and not terribly far from Pier 39 to check out the seals.  All in all this is a great part of town to make sure you see while you're here!  We took a trolley from Lombard Street down to the bottom of the hill to Fisherman's Wharf and it was lots of fun!

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7. The Painted Ladies

These are the Full House houses- sort of... these houses ARE seen in the opening credits, but the actual Tanner house that is shown when zoomed in is in another location.  Regardless, this is a really pretty park (Alamo Park) where you might stumble upon a food truck while you take in the great 360 views.

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8. Golden Gate Park

This place is giant, so I would hone in on one or two areas of the expansive park.  My favorite is definitely the Japanese tea garden!

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-Daytripping-

The next few spots are really just for you folks you decide to rent a car, which I highly recommend so you don't miss these great places! 

9. Muir Woods/Sausalito

The Muir Woods National Forest was quite a sight to see!  Take the advice from another post I found and get there early; we definitely had to circle around for around 15-20 minutes to try to get a parking spot.  On the way home we stopped off in Sausalito.  Had it not been a rainy day we would have loved to explore more of this seaside town.  It had the flavor of a European village by the sea!

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10. Half Moon Bay (The Ritz Carlton)

If you remember the American Pie movies, you might recognize this setting from American Wedding.  If I didn't know any better I might think I was in Ireland!  I love sitting by their fire pits while taking the breathtaking Pacific Ocean views, and we loved our meal at the restaurant as well.  This is a great short day trip to give you a perfect dose of the scenic Pacific Coast Highway. 

image c/o Ritz Carlton

image c/o Ritz Carlton

-Bonus Spots-

If either of these colorful pop up exhibits is still in town, check out The Color Factory and/or the Museum of Ice Cream.  The MOIC currently has an exhibit in Miami & I'm not sure about The Color Factory.  You can sign up on their websites to stay in the loop!

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A Foolproof Guide to Conquering Your New Year's Resolutions

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Every year "New Year's resolutions" become a less and less trendy concept.   People have shifted their dialogue to instead reference their "2018 goals" or even having a "word of the year".  Anything you do to attempt to create a change is awesome, except when you wind up not changing anything at all, which is what I do with Resolutions year after year.  This year I'm hopping on the anti-resolution band wagon & taking a new approach, and it's all about one simple word: habits.  Below I've listed some common resolutions & some ways you can instead turn them into habits.  Whatever you try, commit to doing it for 30 days (more on that logic below).  

Note: This post is partially in partnership with Pivotal Fitness & also contains affiliate links that help earn me a commission! 

Instead of a resolution to "lose weight", try one of these habits:

-get X steps per day, do X minutes of exercise a day, X number of (squats/pushups/etc.) a day

Starting January 1, I'm committing to 30 days of getting 10k steps a day (I track my steps with the Fitbit Alta & I just got my mom the Garmin Vivofit 3)!  The only problem is I LOATHE the cold weather, so I decided to join Pivotal Fitness.  I used to go when it was Eco Fitness, and they still have my favorite cycling instructor but it's even better now!  They just did a giant renovation and have cycling, barre, yoga, & some HIIT classes.  You can wind up spending hundreds & hundreds of dollars a month if you go to a separate barre, yoga, & cycle studio, but Pivotal has all of the classes I like under 1 roof.  I asked them if we could team up so I could give you guys some perks, too!  They will give you a free week pass if you mention Charleston Weekender when you go to any of their clubs.  They'll also offer 30 days free when you sign up for a year!

Instead of a resolution to "eat healthy", try one of these habits:

-eat X every day (something green, a vegetable, a smoothie instead of a meal, etc.), avoid X for 30 days (sugar, alcohol, bread? you pick!), or commit to keeping a food journal for 30 days

I have a wheat allergy and dairy sensitivity and occasionally I completely ignore this.  (Why is pizza SO good?!)  However, I definitely feel my best mentally and physically when I avoid white foods (dairy, flour, sugar, & potatoes). Our bodies just don't need any of those!  I did this about 85% successfully in December, and I know if I can do that over the holidays January will be a piece of cake.  I know it's worth it to stay away from these foods because I feel less anxious & don't have stomach problems.

Instead of a resolution to "keep the house clean", try one of these habits:

-make your bed every day, spend X minutes straightening up (I would start small with about 5 minutes), immediately clean your dishes after you eat

I used to make up my bed every day and then just got out of the habit.  It takes 30 seconds, so we got this!!

Instead of a resolution to "unplug more", try this:

-put your phone in a special place at a certain time each evening and don't pick it up again until the next day

I'm trying this one out- my phone is going to bed at 8pm and I'll plug back in the next day after I have done my morning exercise.


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Next, combine all your new habits into one routine:

The habits I'm hoping to implement are getting 10k steps a day, not having my email/social media be the first thing I look at in the morning or last thing I look at at night, avoiding white foodsmaking up my bed every day, and doing a 6-10 minute "miracle morning" routine (involves a combo of silence/reading affirmations/journaling, etc.).  I think new habits are easiest if you can combine them into one routine, so here's what mine will look like:

1.  by 8pm put my phone in my bathroom to charge

2.  next morning: get up & go to bathroom to turn my alarm off, brush/floss, then come back and make up my bed

3.  go to the dining room table to complete a 6-10 minute "Miracle Morning", part of which will be completing a food journal from the previous day.  You can get a Miracle Morning crash course here

4. either head to Pivotal Fitness if it's M/W/F, or go for a 45 minute walk on the other days

If you're motivated to start the year off with some new habits, a book I'm reading recommends doing those things for 30 consecutive days.  Those first 21 days are the hard part, but apparently you need those extra 9 days to really solidify a habit.  Will you take this 30 day challenge with me?  Start with just 1 new habit or aim for 5.  I can't do this by myself, friends!  I'll be sharing my progress in my Instagram stories, and I'll check back in early in February so we can see how we did!   

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shop my look: earrings // pop the bubbly necklace // lipstick // nail color

See ya in 2018, friends! 

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5 Lessons 2017 Taught Me

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This post is a little bit about remembering to take some time to stop and ENJOY the fruits of our labor from the past year.  It's also about sharing some of the things that I've realized along the way so that I can hopefully help you, too.  I've included some photos of some of my favorite moments of 2017 and I hope you enjoy!  

1. Invest in yourself.

A big part of taking yourself and your business seriously involves spending money and carving out time for yourself.  In 2017, I attended conferences in February (The Southern C) & August (The School of Hustle).  There were times this year (end even this month!) where I had so much doubt and anxiety, but these conferences are truly what kept me going & kept me inspired!  I met new people to work with and heard speakers that gave me a fresh take on approaching my business.  Before I even budgeted for buying new product for my shop, I purchased a ticket to The Southern C & The Maker's Summit.  Let's connect if you'll be there too!

Don't put yourself in an irresponsible position, but don't always be so practical that it becomes detrimental to your growth.  Justify spending money on childcare so you can devote time to exercise, hire a photographer to photograph your products or services, or book that conference or trip that will contribute to your overall wellness or build skills in your career.  Don't be afraid to take a little risk, but know that it's ok to proceed with caution and do this in small doses.  We opened a shop this year, but did so without taking out a bank loan or taking on very much financial responsibility.  I do believe that the greater the risk the greater the reward, but it's ok to start out in shallow water if you're not ready to jump into the deep end.

2. Don't put all your eggs in one opportunity basket.

Remember how Rome wasn't built in a day?  In 99% of cases that applies to your business, too.  Aside from that .0001% of people that have a "Shark Tank" moment, it's going to take the combination of a lot of opportunities to get you where you want to be. You aren't going to have 100k Instagram followers or be a recognizable brand overnight- @OhJoy has been blogging for a decade!  Being in an awesome magazine feature or having a mention on a big blogger's Instagram account are fabulous and exciting, but those things don't usually cause immediate success.  The first time I was published in Style Me Pretty Living I thought it meant big things were going to happen right away!  A few publications later- which I am super grateful & stoked about- I now look at these opportunities as something to help my SEO, build my reach, and slowly contribute to growing a brand.

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teaming up with Palm Beach Lately

3. Ask and ye shall (sometimes) receive.

Here is a little secret for you: every awesome thing you see someone doing on Instagram isn't necessarily getting handed to them.  Sure, some people don't have to work as hard as others to be noticed and given opportunities, some people pay for a PR team to help them, but a lot of great opportunities come from people taking good old fashioned initiative.  When I did some work for the Draper James blog this year?  Reese Witherspoon didn't just discover me and decide I'm awesome and call me.  When Maddie & I were on the West Elm blog, it wasn't because they thought I was the coolest blogger with the cutest dog.  I do some projects for free, I reach out to a lot of PR teams, & I send a lot of emails I never hear back from or get rejections from.  On the other hand, a few times this year I was asked to team up with some fabulous folks & also heard "YES" from some really awesome people- Houzz, Charleston Food & Wine Festival, Kelly Golightly, Charleston Fashion Week, Gray Malin, A Lowcountry Wedding, Charleston Inside Out, The Aqualillies, Palm Beach Lately, ACME House Company, Kimpton Hotels, Talbots, & more.  Most of these people didn't know me from Adam until I reached out to them. Who do you want to work with? Just ask them! 

pictured above: a Charleston Wine & Food Festival event & feature I styled for A Lowcountry Wedding

4.  I can't keep going at this pace!

Anyone else trying to do more than one 9-5 job? Nowadays it's becoming the norm to have a side hustle, or maybe you're like me and your business is comprised of several parts.  When this is the case, it's SO easy to never. shut. down.  Before you know it you're either super stressed, super tired, or super lame and don't spend as much time on the important relationships in your life (even the one that involves taking care of yourself)!  I've learned that I have to make myself a schedule and stick to it; I actually have to write in exercise and turn down even really awesome meetings that interfere with my yoga class.  I have also broken down the various aspects of my income in order to help me see how to spend my time in 2018.  This blog doesn't bring in 50% of my income, so it shouldn't take up 50% of my time.  Let some simple math help you determine how to spend your time.  I can already tell I've got a happier year ahead!  

hanging with the Aqualillies at ACME House Co. in Palm Springs

hanging with the Aqualillies at ACME House Co. in Palm Springs

5.  Habits are our friends.

Habits often have a negative connotation; for example, the adage "old habits die hard" makes me picture how often we struggle to give up bad habits.  I've recently realized I could be using habits to my advantage!  If I want to prioritize exercise or finding more enjoyment in my day, I have to create permanent habits instead of making goals that may or may not get accomplished.  Check out my post on the best way to head into the new year ready to form more good habits.

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in Sea Island for The Southern C

Sianara, 2017!  It's been real, but I'm ready to take on 2018 with some better strategies in my back pocket.  Check out my year in pictures below, and follow along on Instagram to see what I'm up to in the New Year!

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